The benefits of grieving

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Hi, not sure if this is the right board.
I am not sure, if it's a combination, of finding somewhere safe to talk, or just that, I am starting to process the whole experience, but I have found, that as hard as the grieving is, it's also making things alot clearer, I can't describe it, but it's almost like a small reward, I feel intense pain, but then, I get a moment of clarity, the rose coloured glasses have come off, and I see her for who she is, and a part of me heals. It's a bittersweet experience, but I am so very slowly, letting her go.

[Pencil sketch]

Hi, not sure if this is the right board.
I am not sure, if it's a combination, of finding somewhere safe to talk, or just that, I am starting to process the whole experience, but I have found, that as hard as the grieving is, it's also making things alot clearer, I can't describe it, but it's almost like a small reward, I feel intense pain, but then, I get a moment of clarity, the rose coloured glasses have come off, and I see her for who she is, and a part of me heals. It's a bittersweet experience, but I am so very slowly, letting her go.

[Shoct]

hi Pencil sketch,

I am happy to hear that you are starting to feel better, having moments of clarity. Can i ask how long your relationship was, and how long ago you had contact?

[Pencil sketch]

Hi shoct, we were together just over 2 yrs, more off than on it has to be said, an LDR.
She ended it back in August, kept the 'communication' going, and finally changed her number just over 2 weeks ago. I feel, because I know in my gut, that this is it, I am finally letting her go, she still consumes my thoughts, but I feel a very slight shift.
This has happened so many times, we tend to go into our default setting, and follow the same broken/hopeful path, I am still on it, but am slowly changing course. I hold on to the .moments of clarity, and hope to build from them.