Like clockwork ... She emails

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

I've posted on here a lot before about this ex (now ex ex) dBPD young woman who gave me herpes. I dated a girl (and I do mean, a 27 year old Girl) after that; one who was more codependent than dark triad, and she had known my previous ex (OG ex? OX?) and they were friends at one point. Me and the most recent also both had herps, and bonded over our lost mutual friendship with my ex ex.

And what's funny is I had recently blocked my recent ex's facebook, noting that my OG ex's facebook was showing up and that she had unblocked me at some point apparently. However I decided to go ahead and cut ties that night mentally with my most recent ex and this one, by blocking her profile too. The two of them had actually been friends at one point... .birds of a feather. Now they would disappear into the ether with only the memories for me to play with.

Then I got a feeling she would notice for some reason, that I had blocked her with some finality. I thought that would be ridiculous, she wouldn't be facebook stalking me after 3 years. After all, she was so happy with the other guy right? She'd bred with him to top it off. Something I wasn't willing to do for her. A little brother for the 5 year old daughter from a deadbeat ex. I watched the girl be born and spent time with/around her for 2 years.

The other night I mentioned this story to my friend as we discussed exes. I told him I noticed the activity online with this young woman, and that I had a feeling she'd be in touch. Today, technically on Christmas Morning I get this in my Gmail:

"Hey so in the spirit of the season and because I'm drunk for the first time in forever, I hope you're doing well and I'm sorry for being such a ___head back in the day because I find it hard to forgive myself too sometime ya know. Merry Christmas broski"

I'm baffled. I kinda wanna take this in a cordial direction, after all I'm over it now (ironically.) Another part of me says it's not worth tempting fate. After all, the content of her words is pretty childish.

[disorderedsociety]

I've posted on here a lot before about this ex (now ex ex) dBPD young woman who gave me herpes. I dated a girl (and I do mean, a 27 year old Girl) after that; one who was more codependent than dark triad, and she had known my previous ex (OG ex? OX?) and they were friends at one point. Me and the most recent also both had herps, and bonded over our lost mutual friendship with my ex ex.

And what's funny is I had recently blocked my recent ex's facebook, noting that my OG ex's facebook was showing up and that she had unblocked me at some point apparently. However I decided to go ahead and cut ties that night mentally with my most recent ex and this one, by blocking her profile too. The two of them had actually been friends at one point... .birds of a feather. Now they would disappear into the ether with only the memories for me to play with.

Then I got a feeling she would notice for some reason, that I had blocked her with some finality. I thought that would be ridiculous, she wouldn't be facebook stalking me after 3 years. After all, she was so happy with the other guy right? She'd bred with him to top it off. Something I wasn't willing to do for her. A little brother for the 5 year old daughter from a deadbeat ex. I watched the girl be born and spent time with/around her for 2 years.

The other night I mentioned this story to my friend as we discussed exes. I told him I noticed the activity online with this young woman, and that I had a feeling she'd be in touch. Today, technically on Christmas Morning I get this in my Gmail:

"Hey so in the spirit of the season and because I'm drunk for the first time in forever, I hope you're doing well and I'm sorry for being such a ___head back in the day because I find it hard to forgive myself too sometime ya know. Merry Christmas broski"

I'm baffled. I kinda wanna take this in a cordial direction, after all I'm over it now (ironically.) Another part of me says it's not worth tempting fate. After all, the content of her words is pretty childish.

[heartandwhole]

Hey disorderedsociety,

I can see why you'd be tempted to reply cordially. Nothing wrong with that, in my book. If so, I'd keep it brief and friendly.

On the other hand, drunk email messages are something I'd take with a grain of salt and probably not respond to. It sounds like when she wrote it, she was feeling regret about some of her actions. How does that feel for you?

heartandwhole