Hello 2manycats,
wow, what a mess she made in a short time . Dealing with suicide attempts absolutely sucks and my heart goes out to you .
End of year time is always hard on BPD relationship and with some triggering news from your doctors visit is sounds she broke down. Right now she is in care so use the time to take good care of yourself . Can you reach out to a friend or commit getting a T for yourself? Whether breaking up or staying it is vital to have some support for changes and a backup for emergencies. Witnessing a suicide attempt can be traumatizing and it sounds like you are struggling on that side already .
Well when I told my wife this she went into a meltdown, assuming this meant I was checking out of the marriage and going to leave her.
Communicating with a person suffering from BPD can be challenging. Some "facts" carry significant emotional baggage or trigger deep fears. At times difficult topics can be handled in a safer way using
S.E.T. technique but we can never be sure we won't trigger something. It is a fallacy to blame the trigger for the size of the explosion - there was a lot of volatile stuff silently stored waiting for a spark.
She was seeing a therapist and seemed to be making good progress until this happened. At some point she will be discharged from the facility and I’m not really sure if I can deal with it anymore. Thanks for listening to my rant.
This is no rant but a valid cry for help You have a right to be listened to and feel safe.
She drank half a bottle of vodka then proceeded to write me a long, hate-filled email, followed by a series of texts, that essentially blamed me for everything
Is she regularly drinking too much?
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