Made the decision

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

I've decided that my relationship with uBPDh is not going to get recycled. I'm not into that kind of thing. We're in a weird spot because I've been out of our bedroom for nearly 2 years now - in a separate bedroom for nearly a year. I'm trying to get into a career so that I can have some kind of income to support myself. (h has explicitly stated that he didn't want me to have a career because I might leave, so this is often a trigger for him) We have a d13 at home still, so I'm trying to keep things reasonably safe and sane for her.

H agreed to move out back in May and has had a couple of good opportunities to do it, but he is still here and doesn't want to leave. I'm assuming that I'm going to have to do it myself.

Emotionally, I'm scared about the future, but I also realize that wouldn't really be different with h. I've come to accept the reality of the situation and the fact that h doesn't see a real need to change.

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I've decided that my relationship with uBPDh is not going to get recycled. I'm not into that kind of thing. We're in a weird spot because I've been out of our bedroom for nearly 2 years now - in a separate bedroom for nearly a year. I'm trying to get into a career so that I can have some kind of income to support myself. (h has explicitly stated that he didn't want me to have a career because I might leave, so this is often a trigger for him) We have a d13 at home still, so I'm trying to keep things reasonably safe and sane for her.

H agreed to move out back in May and has had a couple of good opportunities to do it, but he is still here and doesn't want to leave. I'm assuming that I'm going to have to do it myself.

Emotionally, I'm scared about the future, but I also realize that wouldn't really be different with h. I've come to accept the reality of the situation and the fact that h doesn't see a real need to change.