Hi Spookahontas,
*Welcome* I'm sorry that you are going through this. It sounds like you are responding in a way that allows him some space but also lets him know that you are still there.
Did something happen right before he disappeared?
Have you tried to set up a time for you guys to get together? Or asked him if things are ok with the two of you?
Hi, thanks for responding.
Well, as I said, he was being a bit distant with me for a while -- not really out of malice but he just seemed a lot busier in his life and work. Like he'd invite me out to an event but then wouldn't follow through and I'd have to chase him up to ask for the details. I just felt like his distance was causing me to come across as more needy than usual.
The last time I saw him he'd invited me out for a few drinks with his family and friends. But for the whole night he acted a little cold with me, like he needed space and I was dragging him down. Or maybe it just felt like that because he used to be much more affectionate. I was quite a sad mood that night and I remember him making a few subtle comments that I felt were belittling. At one point I snapped at him and said something like "do you want me to just leave?" and he said "I didn't say that", but his actions said differently. It just felt like there was tension between us and it didn't feel right.
After that night, he pretty much disappeared from my life. The only contact he made with me was a friend request on his new Facebook account, but that doesn't mean much. I can see he's added a bunch of other girls and it hurts.
