Do you ever wonder if your ex's ex's are on here

[PaticAttack]

I have wondered this many o'times.  I have wanted to reach out to the 2 that I know of and pick their brains, but I am afraid they will think im crazy and become the stalker that she may have made me out to be.  I want to understand their experiences with her and how everything went down.  I actually met her "ex-wife", i quote that because they are actually still married but have not been together for a few years.  They are friends, she called her her family and they co-own/parent dogs together. Their relationship never bothered or intimidated me in any way.  But now I question What the heck!  What I've learned here is that its very difficult to maintain a f/s.  I did witness her dis-regulate  a couple of times because of her ex, looking back, it was weird.  Anyway, just thoughts.  I am also trying to post more here now that I have a computer to type on, the phone sucks for this.  I also want to engage more with you all and get different perspectives. 

Cheers!

[gotbushels]

HAHAHA that would be pretty funny  

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But now I question What the heck!
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Yes. Your recount of how things were is surprising. What's a bit strange is that they were still married and this person seemed to be out getting involved in other intimate relationships.

I was tempted to contact her previous ex before me. Thankfully I think I understood how things generally worked by then with her, and didn't feel compelled enough to approach him. I did make some big losses, but figured at best we'd trade notes about how things "really" went down--because I'm quite sure there was some triangulation involved combined with the upwBPD outright lying to keep a triangle going. In the end I didn't really want to know more about the pwBPD or the previous ex enough to make contact. Apparently he was the subject of her beating for years longer than me. Unfortunate fella. Fortunately for me I had the blessing of other things I cared about around the time of the last breakup.

What was your takeaway?

[enlighten me]

I have to admit that sometimes when I read posts I do wonder if it is my exgf theyre on about.

[Pretty Woman]

Funny you post this... .me too! There are a few times posters really felt familiar in a way I couldn't explain. Sometimes I wonder if my replacement is on here too 

Once, my ex was texting me from someone I thought was a friend's phone. They were screwing around behind my back and I was suspicious... .months later I find out my ex was pretending to be this person. These two beetches were sitting back, laughing and being "five".

When I think of these things it makes me grateful my ex is no longer my problem.