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Hi, my daughter (she is not my birth daughter but mine as well be, I raise her) we think has this disorder. She is 16 almost 17. She has been in a mental hospital, seem many therapists, she has been bullied at school, homeschooled, back to public school, etc. There is always something wrong. She is on so many medications that she says does not help her. She states she still has nightmares and states she hears voices. She does tell the therapist this it is always like a calm before the storm. She will tell principles or teachers. She had even made up bad things that I accused me of doing. Which interned involved DSS. Is there hope at the end of this tunnel. When do we let her grow up?

[Jessa37]

Hi, my daughter (she is not my birth daughter but mine as well be, I raise her) we think has this disorder. She is 16 almost 17. She has been in a mental hospital, seem many therapists, she has been bullied at school, homeschooled, back to public school, etc. There is always something wrong. She is on so many medications that she says does not help her. She states she still has nightmares and states she hears voices. She does tell the therapist this it is always like a calm before the storm. She will tell principles or teachers. She had even made up bad things that I accused me of doing. Which interned involved DSS. Is there hope at the end of this tunnel. When do we let her grow up?

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[RolandOfEld]

Hi Jessa37 and welcome.   It must be very painful to watch your child struggle and not know how to help. You have definitely come to the right place.

Here you find a supportive community of individuals who also struggle interacting with loved ones with BPD. There is hope! I suggest you read through and participate in some of the threads here to find others with common experiences.  

A BPD diagnosis is often made alongside other disorders. What particular behaviors make you think she has BPD?    

~ROE

[Mutt]

Hi Jessa37,



Id like to join RolandofEld and welcome you to bpdfamily. I want to echo RolandofEld I can’t imagine how difficult it would be to see your child suffer from BPD. My advice is compassion it helps a pwBPD to know that there is someone in their corner. Can you tell us more?

[Scoody]

we are used to our 15 yr old making ridiculous accusations to anyone that will listen. We are doing everything in our power to get her proper diagnosis and treatment, yet she thinks nothings wrong. We put cameras in the house to document things because we needed everyone to believe this is real, were not the ones making up stories. We now can document the tantrums, stealing, poor health patterns, and house strife she causes but denies. Last night i found a gallon of ice cream in the middle of her bed at 2:30 am while she decided to shower then(on a school night). Photos and video help her understand she can't lie anymore and she has a problem that she still denies.