Hi there "Imafool"
I don’t understand any of this. I feel like she’s making a terrible terrible mistake and I am so scared for her. I’m so heartbroken. I have been through so much with her mental disorders and I have been 100 percent supportive. And now it’s all vanished like it’s never meant anything. I feel betrayed, empty and used. I did everything and bent over backwards to ensure her happiness. How do I get over something like this? I feel like the biggest fool ever.
First off, welcome to this board i hope that you would be able to find the support you need at this point in time as you interact with the community.
Secondly, i would say with much care and gentleness, that you are a good and caring person. I would not go as far as to say that you are foolish in anyway, but you were vulnerable and genuine to someone cared about very much. It must be heartbreaking for you to have poured out so much of your "being" into her, only to be left stranded feeling "betrayed, empty and used"
How do I get over something like this?
First, i'd start of by perhaps asking, how are you feeling right now? I want to also stress that "getting over" is a process with no fixed timelines... .and it also depends very much of what you want to do ( your engagements and interactions with this person from now on ) From your response above, i do see a good deal of emotional attachment to this person.
So, first go easy on yourself, don't beat yourself up and don't blame yourself. That if i may is a good place to start this process. When you've come to what you would like to do next, just respond to this post and i'll take it from there. Feel free to ask anything and its okay to express yourself and be yourself here. I believe many have shared similar experiences and this is a "safe and non judgemental" place where you can share your thoughts.
Please takecare,
Spero.