BPD with Age?

[Darkblaez]

Just a question that came to mind.

Do individuals with BPD express these behaviors as being more pronounced as their age increases? 

I would assume the failed relationships start to accumulate and does this weigh on them, as in do they even evaluate all the failed relationships and cycle they repeat? Or do they never have any culpability and just so happen to run across so many of the wrong people (in their mind)?

-Darkblaez

[crushedagain]

In the dozens and dozens of articles I've read on BPD since my BPDexgf walked out on me, most have suggested that the symptoms usually decrease with age, if anything. I don't know if there's any truth to it, it's just what I read.

[zachira]

I would say that some BPD behaviors will decrease with age. For example, being sexually promiscuous is hard to do as one ages, as there are less partners and the older person has less energy.
I would say that the impact of having BPD increases with age. Many nursing homes do not want clients with BPD, and often the children are constantly trying to find a new place for their BPD parent.
These are just my opinions. I don't have any actual statistics. Maybe someone else here does.
Can you tell us what made you ask this question? On this site, we like to  help each other, and having a little more background about your question can help others to respond.

[Cromwell]

they usually withdraw more and mellow out with regards to the extremes of behaviour.

some will have settled and had to adapt in order to retain a stable caretaker who they cant so easily drive away as it is harder to find a replacement. the looks have gone and the sex is not so great a hook as it once was.

it is not an easy world to cope if you still carry the emotional development of a toddler. its not easy to hold down a career without having to contain temper tantrums with work colleagues.

probably different for high functioning borderlines or the quiet type. im talking about my experience with a BPD waif.

if you are trying to picture what the future holds for your ex, than if you have seen the homeless types muttering to themselves as they forage for trash, then you wont be far away from the truce.

at best they will be dominating their families by all their well practiced techniques of emotional abuse they have learned. or having found themselves completely disowned, once their family members realise they need to preserve their sanity.

anyone left with them who puts up with it is liable to develop a host of stress related  physical and mental health conditions.

their outward behaviour may have changed, but they still havent, not without any real work on their part in therapy.

[Darkblaez]

Thanks for the replies this helps me understand the potential evolution of this with age. To asnwer a question that was posed, this was more for my own curiousity in that I would imagine as age increases, looks change, sex changes, and so forth that the very bait used to fish with would not be what it use to be.

Do BPD individuals have the foresight to even recognize this and consciously make adjustments? Or are they always spun around their own axle thinking supply is bountiful?

-Darkblaez

[zachira]

"Are they always spun around their own axle thinking supply is bountiful?"
This part of your question makes me think of Narcissistic Personality Disorder which can be difficult to distinguish from BPD, or can coexist with BPD.
Narcissists are always looking for people to reflect back that they want to hear and see, and when the supply of admiration wanes with a person, then they go elsewhere to look for supply. You can often tell a person with narcissistic tendencies by the way they just light up when they feel admiration and how angry they get if given any kind of feedback that is not what they want to hear and see. Narcissists can be well liked and popular, until people get to know them, and are often know as great benefactors in the community. People with BPD really struggle to maintain a facade due to their sudden meltdowns which come out of nowhere.
I don't know if I have answered any of your questions. Please keep sharing your thoughts and let us know what is helpful. We all like to learn from each other, and everyone's situation is different in its own way.