Addiction & BPD

[Mom53]

I have a 22 year old son with BPD who recently got out of jail and has been on a alcohol and drug binge for 5 days straight. I have been to hell and back for 9 years and feel alone and scared he will end up dead

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Huat]

Hi Mom53 .  Glad you found us but so sorry you found the need to do it.

I hear/feel the pain in your post.  What a frightening position you are in.  This is not what you wanted for your son and I am sure you feel so helpless.  We try so hard to influence our children but sometimes they make the decisions to go in different directions.

You write, "I have been to hell and back... ." and those are words that are echoed many times here by parents who are hurting like you are hurting.  Nine years is such a long, long time.  Do you have any support for yourself... .a partner, family, friends?  Whatever you have or don't have... .the people here can/will be a support for you. 

Now that you have found us, I urge you to continue writing. Tell us your story.  If you have taken any time to read the posts of others, you will see that nothing you could write would come as a shock. 

Once again, welcome Mom53.  Here is a ((HUG) from me to you.

Huat  

[Lollypop]

Hey there mom53

My son returned home at 24. We had a revolving door situation - he’d leave them downward spiral and we accept him back home. I then found this forum and it’s saved my family and I say this seriously, most probably his life.

It’s a tough place you’re in and 9 years is a very long time - it’s just so exhausting. You’ve come to the right place and I’m glad you found us.

My son is now 27 and functioning working full time. He’s living independently but very close as he still needs the emotional support. .

We found a way to be happier, despite the problems.

I join Huat in welcoming you!

Has your son been in touch during this latest incident? 

Hugs to you as I think you need it 

LP

[Scout206]

Dear Mom53
Your fear is palpable.   I know what feeling hopeless and helpless to change the situation is l.   Let us know a little bit more about your situation so we can try to offer some help or support.  Any chance of getting him into rehab or into a mental health facility?  Are you in contact with him?   Stay in touch.  You are now alone.  We are here for you.
Scout206

[Lady Itone]

What kind of drugs is he taking? What's his pattern, when he goes on one of the benders? What can you expect?