BPD/NPD Sister stalks me on Pinterest

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Apparently my disordered sister found my Pinterest account and read my quotes.  They are quotes from a past relationship.  She thinks I am sad and still with that person ... .I found this out through a family member as I stay off her chat room because she just lies and has always been a pathological liar.  Oh well, I guess she can think what she wants as I don't really care.  My life is in a good place  and I am blessed although it really doesn't matter what she thinks!  She has never been a real sister to me and has only abused, lied and hurt me... .now stalking me.  Anyone else?

[Pina colada]

Apparently my disordered sister found my Pinterest account and read my quotes.  They are quotes from a past relationship.  She thinks I am sad and still with that person ... .I found this out through a family member as I stay off her chat room because she just lies and has always been a pathological liar.  Oh well, I guess she can think what she wants as I don't really care.  My life is in a good place  and I am blessed although it really doesn't matter what she thinks!  She has never been a real sister to me and has only abused, lied and hurt me... .now stalking me.  Anyone else?

[Harri]

Hi.  It is hard when our pwBPD keeps doing the same behaviors over and over.

I am glad to hear you are in a good place in your life.  What aspects are you most content with?

I am glad to hear that you have stopped visiting her blog though!  That is excellent.  I do not have a big, or really any online presence so I have no experience being stalked, plus my most difficult BPD is dead. 

What did you say to the family member who told you she is looking at you online stuff?  Your sister is who she is.

[Pina colada]

Hi Harri.  Thank you for thought provoking response.  I am very close to this person.  We have read her chats together for over ten years.  I finally told her... .long story short sis told me about a chat forum for folks with challenging children.  She made fun of the posters and used to send me posts she thought were "funny".  I did not.  Those poor folks were crying out for help.  She must have forgot she shared this with me and when I got a job is special education I went of the forum.  I realized she was posting all about our FOO.  Truth wrapped upped in lies of omission.  Stories where she forgot important details usually making her out to be the victim.  I am sure you understand.  I shared this with my brother and father and we kept reading the stuff.  Mostly brother and I bounced our version of our upbringing off one another.  Sis made ALOT of things up to make herself look like a victim and my mon and all of us as monsters.  I finally told her we read about three years ago.  I know she embellished stories about me as she knew I read there.  January, after she cut me off (I posted about this before) I stopped reading here cr*p... .It is a huge relief.  I don't mind hearing things now and then.  I don't mind that she is stalking me on Pinterest, I barely use my Pinterest and the quotes are not recent.  So she thinks I am sad and am in a bad place... .it doesn't matter.  I have a very rewarding job working in special education!  I bought my own townhouse a year and half ago! I have a lot of friends!  I have a small group of family I am close with and see!  I have a new special guy!  It is summer! I am looking into getting certified in yoga this summer as I am off as I work in a school!  Of course we all have ups and down but the quotes I posted on Pinterest and saved were pretty much to share with friends and not really how I am feeling all the time especially now.  My sister is wo she is.  I don't like posting (what I did above) as I am superstitious and know good fortune can disappear in the blink of an eye.  I also don't like rubbing this in anyone's face.  I am blessed things are good now but know others struggle and it is hard to read "happy" when you are in a bad place.  How are you doing Harri?  Does it get better when the disordered person passes away? 

[Harri]

Hi!  I like hearing about people who are in a good place emotionally and every other way.  I get to share in your happiness! 

You ask if it gets better when the disordered person dies.  I have to say no.  The immediate hurts stop and there are no additional ones but the damage that has already happened is still there.  Maybe it is because the mentally ill person in my life was a parent, I don't know, but the damage and hurt has become a part of me.  There will always be scars there will always be difficulties related to the damage done.  Yes, healing can happen but I won't ever get to a place where it would be as if certain things did not happen.  Right now, peace is elusive. 

As for your sister getting hung up on old quotes, it just is right?  She probably can't share in other peoples happiness which is unfortunate.  Shared joy and happiness is the best part of living! 

[Pina colada]

Harri, thanks again.  You are right.  She probably can not share in others joy unless it directly affects her.  She was all about what my mom and dad could give her financially... .money.  When my mom refused to give her adult grown daughter any more money, that is when she turned fiercely on our mom and made her life miserable.  It is sad when happiness comes to money, not even money one works for but feeling our parents "owed" her money because she is their daughter whom is in her late 60's now and a hot mess.  My life is not perfect but I am in a very good place.  My life is full and busy that I can not always post here... .a good thing .  I feel bad for my sister that she may never have the inner peace that is out there.