Business partnership and friend for 32 years

[Flippy]

Hi,

I have a friend of 32 years and we own two very large and successful businesses together. We had been living in a jointly owned house until February when she moved out.  While we lived together, she made many suicide threats as well as scratching herself.  She recently was hospitalized by her therapist for her suicidal thoughts.  Her therapist is a domestic violence specialist and I was labeled the "primary abuser" even though

We were in therapy together until after she was released from the hospital when she said she was told to quit couples counseling.  even though we have all our assets jointly owned.  This therapist believes my friend is BPD.  There was alcohol abuse as well as past physical abuse on both sides.  After doing some research, I am now frightened with what I am faced with.  My therapist thinks I should;d have as little as contact with her as possible.  My therapist has seen her be verbally abusive to me.  Her roller coaster of emotions - from rage to love and back again changes in an instant.  I have had to leave my home in fear when I didn't respond to her text messages.  She wants an immediate response and when I don't respond, she calls me abusive and passive aggressive.

I don't know what to do especially because of the finances and the businesses.  I know what I have read about the disorder and my therapist as well as my family have advised me to get out of the financial/businesses.

Any advice would be appreciated!

[Harley Quinn]

Hi Flippy and

Sorry for the late response.  I'm glad you found us based on what you've shared here.  That's certainly a difficult situation to find yourself in and for so long.  What level of contact do you two maintain at present and how is her behaviour towards you?  Has it always been a friendship or has there ever been more to your r/s?  I noticed you've been through couples counselling.

After doing some research, I am now frightened with what I am faced with.

I'd advise you to begin by learning all you can here, as the resources are trustworthy and from reliable sources.  The articles to the right are an excellent place to start and are factual.  There is a lot of urban myth online so be sure that anything you read does come from a trustworthy source. 

What specifically frightens you about what you are facing?  You mention there has been physical abuse on both sides.  Do you feel you are both safe?

I don't know what to do especially because of the finances and the businesses.  I know what I have read about the disorder and my therapist as well as my family have advised me to get out of the financial/businesses.

What do you want to do?  We are here for you whatever you decide, so keep posting and join other discussions.  Community support has real benefits during difficult times and everyone here knows how those times feel.

Love and light x