New to seeking outlet/advice with my relationship with BPD

[Jam812]

Saying hello I found this site when researching more into BPD. I'm with a woman we have been together for nearly 2 years. She has been diagnosed with BPD for about 9 months now and we are working thru learning more about it, which i have only recently given it serious attention but im coming to realize so many similarities and causes for alot of issues and toxic behaviors in ourelationship, also coming to realise from my reading that I'm most likely a co-dependent. Looking forward to being a part of the community here it seems to have alot of people with insight and experience into BPD and a genuine willingness to help others to heal and grow. Thanks for existing and thanks for all the help im sure this community is going to offer!

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[pearlsw]

Hi Jam812,



Can you please tell us more about the behaviors you are seeing? Does she seem to have many of the BPD traits, or few?

Are you working on your co-dependency?

with compassion, pearl.

[Jam812]

Hi Jam812,



Can you please tell us more about the behaviors you are seeing? Does she seem to have many of the BPD traits, or few?

Are you working on your co-dependency?

with compassion, pearl.

It's been ongoing thru most of our relationship aside from the beginning (which seems to be common) abandonment issues, black / white thinking everything with her is either amazing or devastating, clinginess, mood swings typically anger or 'passive suicidal'(is how her therapist describes it), self destructive behaviour(were both recovering addicts shes nearing 1 year sober, 5 months on my side) promiscuity, history of bad and abusive relationships and cheating(old issue we had in the first year not currently taking place to my knowledge), attention seeking, needing constant validation of my love and commitment, dissociation, poor self image and lack of self worth.
She shows or has show nearly the whole gambit of typical symptoms and is also diagnosed and medicated for depression.
As far as my own co-dependence its something ive only started looking into recently and havent explored into it beyond google.

[pearlsw]

Hi again,

Perhaps this reading on Dealing with Enmeshment and Codependence could be helpful for you then.

Take a look if you like and let us know what you think!

How long have you been together? Do you live together? Do you get a lot of break up threats?

take care, pearl.