BPD, adult daughter-last episode turned physical, what to do next?

[dodgerfan]

just found this site. looking for support and help from others. have hit a brick wall and feel powerless to "help her" any more. Even just listening. Last episode, 3 wks. ago, turned physical. What do to next?  

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[wendydarling]

Hi dodgerfan

 

Welcome to the community. I'm so glad you've reached out for support here, parents understand and can help you as you decide what to do next, you are not alone.  How are you, you say the last episode turned physical is concerning, what happened? It's no wonder you've hit a brick walk, feel powerless to help her anymore, we can help you move forwards.

WDx

[bluek9]

Hi Dodgerfan,   

   Just wanted to join Wdx in saying glad you're here. It's always sad, scary but not surprising when a parent says things got physical. That's awful and I hope you are ok? This a great place to look around, check things out; it can be a place to answer that question. There is a lesson at the right #2 about when your approach isn't working change it. I love it, it helps to give new perspective. ------>>
  My hope for you is that you feel comfortable here, encouraged and keep posting. Let us know how you are doing and if you need something.

[Overwhelmedabit]

I’m so sorry about that. Has happened to me as well and it’s scary and so sad to think your child would do this to you.
Happened to me not long ago with my adult daughter.
Fortunately was able to find a care coordinator who got through to her a bit (she’s bipolar too) and got her some meds and some counseling fast.
Has helped some but she’s still terribly self destructive. I find I have to boot her out of the house when she is really abusive like that. You deserve not to be abused and to be safe. That said, if you have to be around her and she’s trashing, to be on the safe side I always keep my car keys in my pocket, my phone in my pocket and my purse in the car. Sometimes the best course of action is to flee. I hope that doesn’t sound too awful to you, it seems really awful to be writing this. Also one time I called the police, thought it might scare her a bit and calm things down. Physical stuff is a whole other level, be really careful. So sorry you’re going through this.  I hope she can get some help but gosh it’s tough, isn’t it? Trying to get them to admit they have a problem is hard and then finding someone to help and paying for it is hard too. Sending many prayers and good wishes you way!