In a romantic relationship: she wanted me to leave, then suddenly changed

[LivingLife]

my wife has BPD she was emtionally abused as a child and was sexually abused as a young women, bye  her brothers, and bye men she had affairs with

i am finding out about BPD and the inpact it has on me,
her emotions are hightened and her behaviour can be loving one moment and also,the other day she wanted me to leave and there was no rational thought in that behviour, then she suddently changed back to wanting me to stay

has any body been thru this type of behaviour before

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[Radcliff]

Welcome!  I am sorry to hear of the difficult situation you are in, but am glad you have found us.  This is a great place to get support and learn how to better cope with the issues that BPD can bring.

Yes, the behaviors you've described are familiar to nearly every member here. 

How long have you been married?  How did you first learn about BPD?

WW

[pearlsw]

Hi LivingLife,

That sounds so hard! I am sure you had a lot of sympathy for her and yet you have also had to deal with a lot of mistreatment from her yourself.

Has she gotten any treatment to help her recover from her abuse?

How do you feel about the way she is treating you?

warmly, pearl.