How long it usually lasts the positive honeymoon period of a new relationship?

[childhoodgone]

How long it usually lasts the positive honeymoon period of a new relationship for a BPD?

It is known that in general the honeymoon period in which everyone sees their new partner through pink glasses and idealizes him it lasts 3 to 6 months, up to maximum 2 years.

Is it the same for pwBPD ? Or their honeymoon periods in which they can keep
generally positive and nice are shorter?

Thank you for your experiences and thoughts

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[once removed]

It is known that in general the honeymoon period in which everyone sees their new partner through pink glasses and idealizes him it lasts 3 to 6 months, up to maximum 2 years.

Is it the same for pwBPD ?

in general, i would say BPD isnt a difference maker here. it really depends on both partners, and the partnership itself.

if you were to poll members, you would get different results from everyone, but i think most would tell you 3-6 months maximum 2 years. and a lot of that would depend on their own perception of the relationship.

[childhoodgone]

I find it so biological that we get these same hormons (oxytocins, endorfins) in order to create attachment at the beginning of sexual relationships, and they last usually the same duration for majority of human beings.

what main aspects/events can change significantly change the length of the honeymoon period?

Thank you

[pearlsw]

Hi childhoodgone,

I don't know the answer to this, I'd ask my friend "Google" , but are you asking because you are hoping to rekindle a relationship with this girlfriend or because you are curious about relationships in general or... .?

Do you feel a strong bond/connection to her? What feels right for your life?

take care, pearl.

[childhoodgone]

Google did not help with any other answers than that the average honeymoon period is very long, 6 months.

Yes all those abuses and things she did to me, now I interpret them as caring for me... .

[pearlsw]

Hi childhoodgone,

Hope you are feeling well today!

You have already been involved with her for well over 2 years right? What it is about the "honeymoon phase" that is of interest to you? Is this something separate than about your relationship with her? Or are you going back and reexamining the first two years?

So, you saw this abuse, but now you think it was her being caring? Do I misunderstand on this point?

warmly, pearl.

[childhoodgone]

Hi childhoodgone,

Hope you are feeling well today!

You have already been involved with her for well over 2 years right? What it is about the "honeymoon phase" that is of interest to you? Is this something separate than about your relationship with her? Or are you going back and reexamining the first two years?

So, you saw this abuse, but now you think it was her being caring? Do I misunderstand on this point?

warmly, pearl.

Compared to most people in the world who ignore me,
someone that hates me sometimes, insults me sometimes, is nice to me some rare times,
is someone that spends time with me

[childhoodgone]

How will people become attached to me in the future?

[childhoodgone]

So, you saw this abuse, but now you think it was her being caring? Do I misunderstand on this point?

warmly, pearl.

I lived the abuses she did to me on regular basis.

However after 7 years with her, the new world without her is scary and unknown.

I understand that I was living an illusion, as she didn't care about me and she had no empathy whatsoever for me,
but she managed to make me hers through her impulsive actions