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Mine periodically tries to reconnect with this. He is the one that can get me to a better place. He is the only one that can do that. If I'd just see that, we'd be a great couple. He'd be so kind to me helping me to get better. Etc. Etc.
It utterly baffles me that he thinks he could do that, much less that I'd agree to it. I realize that is the narcissism talking.
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It sounds more to me like a salesperson trying too hard to convince that their product, once-in-a-lifetime deal is all you would ever need, wish for and is guaranteed to last beyond all competition out there.
I never really got much of this, there was some comments that I labelled as "romantic" at the time, which I guess are more likely rooted in narcissism. One of hers was "we will be together forever", I didnt read too much into it all but it does strike me now to think how much she believed in it.
Theres a bit of 'future proofing' I think going on with the "hed help you to get better" etc, it equates to me a bit like entrenched into childhood telling the parent "please get me the puppy for Xmas, I swear I will look after and love it forever".
until the novelty wears off soon after acquistion and responsibility starts to kick in beyond words/dreaming talk.
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