Thank you Cat Familiar and Pearl for the warm welcome. Any feedback is welcome!
Hi Harvs,Just to let ya know the site also has a
Legal board where you may also be able to get many questions answered.
Even if you do choose to go through with a divorce, it can still help a lot to understand the illness and the communication tools offered on the site to help you with that so it is also good to read and share here (and engage the community regularly) if that suits you!
May I ask, do you remain in contact with your kids while traveling? How much contact do you have? The amount of time and effort you put into parenting now will play a big role in a divorce later. The courts will closely look at how much daily/weekly time you put in and what pieces of the childcare you do in making their decisions. Although the caretaker can be highly dysfunctional, if that is who spends the most time with them... .well, courts tend to lean towards that from what I have seen in my limited experience.
Nevertheless, it is important that you do what you can to maintain the relationship with the kids. This will certainly present challenges, to say the least, but I think given where your heart is about this it is a struggle that you can and will take on. Please stay strong! It is not an easy path and it can really break anyone down, but... .having support and understanding can go a long, long way to helping you get through this with fewer scratches on ya!
Can you tell us more about what NPD behaviors you are seeing/experiencing in your wife?
take care, pearl.