Good news

[kells76]

Just felt like sharing some good news (for once   ) that hopefully encourages folks here... .

Had first EVER school night overnight with SD12 last night. For those of you who have been tracking our story for a while, this is huge. If you're newer here, this is the kid who at age 7 or so told DH "you're not my family".

I hope this brings some encouragement, especially to the dads here, that things can get better, even though it can look very dark sometimes.

kells76

[Skip]

Good to hear!

[kells76]

Thanks Skip 

I will add that it has taken a lot of work: using the tools, working with a counselor, practicing validation, being open to feedback, and playing the long game (not going for "instant gratification" of putting down Mom, etc). Just "waiting" wasn't magic. But doing the work over a few years has paid off -- most importantly for the kids to be able to have relationships with BOTH parents.

[Panda39]

Yay kells76!  

Nice job! Kudos to you and your husband for learning the tools, implementing them and not giving up even when the going gets tough!

I agree it's a long game... .marathon.  

           

Panda39

[livednlearned]

That is wonderful news! I'm so happy for you, and for SD12!

Your empathy and skills are a big part of that good news, kells76.  

[david]

Good to hear.