my 23 year old son

[pooles]

My son, who is 23 years old, has been very difficult to be in a close relationship with.  He lashes out in angry spurts.  He gets livid with me.  He usually apologizes hours or a day later feeling badly about how he talked to me.  His father, who I am divorced from , was the same way with me.  My son even says to me, you divorced dad because you didn't want to be treated like that and now I am doing it to you.  He has just moved across the country to take a job which is  relief but I am also really sad that he is unhealthly and we can't have a closer relationship.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Feeling Better]

Hello pooles 

Welcome.

I am sorry to hear that you are struggling to maintain a close relationship with your 23 year old son, I understand how you must be feeling, I struggled with my son too.

You say that he has moved across the country to take a job, and whilst I get it that you feel relief because of that, you are also feeling sad that he is unhealthy and you can’t have a closer relationship with him. Do you think that you are also feeling sad because he has moved away and you are unable to help him? I remember with my son, I was desperate to help him, desperate for him to seek help and get better.

When did your son move to start his new job? Are you in close contact?

I hope you take the time to look around the site and to also read other’s posts, I’m sure you will find it most helpful, we are all here to support you pooles x