Spouse has BPD

[Neesha]

Hello. Newbie here. Just moved out of the house after one of his rages, his words this time were “take ur things and be gone by tomorrow “

So bc I was not aware of how I should react to BOD ... .I moved out.
We still talk but I truly don’t think he even remembers or will concede that he really said those things. Would like to have him seek help but HOW on earth do u even get to that conversation.

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hi Neesha and

can you tell us how recently you moved out, how often youre talking, and how its going? that will give us a better feel for your circumstances and how to proceed.

[Hart_Payne]

First, did his "get out" sound like a threat? Either way leaving was safe. The fact that you're talking to him and he's in denial or oblivious to the fact of what said is disconcerting. Problem is that you can't get him to therapy unless he acknowledges his faults. You can seek help for yourself to manage your stress and hurt, but you can't lead a BPD horse to water and you definitely can't make them drink. Do things to help yourself.