So do you think she’s wanting you to move back in and live with her again?
No. Well, maybe in some possible universe, but the flavor of the email is that she can't possibly imagine me being back home, and she doesn't think I have any ideas for how to make that possible.
And I don't. At least I don't have ideas that don't involve work on her part, too.
I guess for months and months now I've been doing my best to give things some space, stay the course, and see if therapy helps. I feel like it's time to change direction, but I don't really know what direction to go. I don't want to give any ultimatums or anything, but I would like to have some clear idea of what I think needs to happen for us to be together again, and be able to either (a) talk with her about that and come to some kind of agreement (unlikely) or (b) tell her what I think in the kindest, most compassionate way possible, and then act consistently with that vision in mind.
I feel like I've just been going down the same road for a long time, and I've passed many crossroads without even really yielding. I want to try to stop at this crossroad and figure out the best direction to go.
So that's really a lot more than how to respond to an email. Maybe the email is an inflection point, or can be one.