Finding my way

[Tater Salad]

25 years of marriage.  Some of it happy but most of it, I’m been walking on eggshells.  Many episodes and challenges along the way.  I knew something was wrong but it didn’t have a name until a couple of weeks ago.  I don’t even know how I stumbled across BPD but I did.  I’ve read walking on eggshell and watched every YouTube video i can find.  She hasnt been diagosed (that I’m aware of)  but I am 100% sure she’s BPD.  I feel like everything i read is talking about us.  Where do I go from here.  How do I make it better.  How do i keep my sanity.

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[once removed]

hi Tater Salad and

Where do I go from here.  How do I make it better.  How do i keep my sanity.

healing can begin having taken the step of reaching out for support. i hope youll stick around and make yourself at home here as part of the family. not only have you found a community that gets it, but through work, things really can get better. there is hope.

start by telling us whats going on in your marriage? what are the primary conflicts youre struggling with right now?

[Tater Salad]

Over the past 15 years, I’ve experienced just about every situation that I’ve seen described in the books and articles.  I know there’s a good person underneath but I’m seeing less and less of that.  My family members and in-laws recognize that something is amiss in her behavior and wonder why I continue to subject myself to the roller coaster ride.  I have teenage and young adult children who are completely aware of what’s going on although some of them have not heard “BPD” yet.  I want my partner back.  I’m tired of feeling lonely.

[once removed]

I’ve experienced just about every situation

can you describe one that is going on right now?

[Harri]

Hi!  I just want to chime in with once removed and say welcome    and encourage you to read and post and just settle in here. 

You said you have been married for 25 years but it sounds like your wife's behavior was worse over the last 15 is that correct?  If so, can you link the change to a particular event? 

I hope to hear more from you soon.  Take care.