Today is my STBX's Birthday

[toomanydogs]

Not trying to be bitchy or horrible here, but today is my STBX's birthday. And today my hair looks gorgeous. Today I weigh 115, twenty pounds less than I weighed in high school. Today I feel gorgeous and smart and loved and strong and talented and accomplished. And today is my STBX's birthday.

[worriedStepmom]

That's one of the things that struck me during my divorce, too.  Once I started putting more of an emphasis on ME - not just the wife or the mom or the housekeeper or any of my other roles - just ME, I discovered I liked myself a lot.  I adopted healthier habits and actually took care of myself for once.

I'm so glad you've found that sweet spot for yourself.  YOU are important and YOU deserve to be taken care of.

[SamwizeGamgee]

Awesome!  Thanks for the positive vibe - positive from noticing you, yourself!
I think I too have felt a little of the joy over the past few years - of doing something for myself.  And letting down one or more of the expectations of my wife.
"Healthy Selfish" is the new guy replacing the Caretaker. 

[toomanydogs]

Thank you, Worried. And thank you, Samwise!
I'm feeling pretty darn good today. What a difference a year makes.   

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