My wife stopped talking to me. what to do?

[Lannos]

I'll summarize what I wrote in another post and then put the new problem.

I'm in a romantic relationship. She is a BPD. We've been living together for 9 months. I'm looking for help. I feel like a nuclear bomb could explode at any time. I really feel like I'm walking on eggshells. For her, she's always right. The whole world has problems, including me. My wife never admits her actions and the concessions that arise from them. She frequently changes her mood and gets a restrained anger ready to explode. I keep checking what I'm going to say and do to avoid a fight between us. I have been alert or afflicted for this reason. Lately, when we've fought I've been screaming and shaking, as if losing control. It just seems like I'm the one who's out of balance.

New problem:
Now, after a few more arguments, she stopped talking to me.  I'm trying to let time go by to see if she changes her mood again, but our detachment is big now. I do not know exactly what the fight is about now. I asked and she said she does not want to talk because it's no use and we'll fight again. Trouble is, it's taking longer than normal to get through. I do not know much what to do.

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[Radcliff]

I'm sorry to hear that you're experiencing the silent treatment.  That, combined with emotional swings, can be very stressful and upsetting.
 How long has it been that she has not been talking to you?

RC

[Lannos]

HI RadCliff

Thank you for your attention and for you to feel touched. It's great to know that someone understands and can even name the problem: silent treatment and emotional swings. In fact this is what happens. I suffer and can not keep calm, easily I start to tremble.


Since January 2, a great distraction has begun with emotional swings and silent treatment. There was almost a breakup. Under great stress, I end up telling her that I want to end. After the anger goes by, I'm sorry and I do not want the relationship to end. This cycle has been repeated a few times.


The day before yesterday we have a conversation and she said she was quite disappointed with me etc. (I put some limits with the help of my therapist). She now implied with my therapist and said that she noticed problems in my family system etc. She can never take her part in trouble.


We tried an approach yesterday (it would be the output of the silent treatment), we left, took a waterfall shower, tried to walk a little, but her mood was not very good.


Today the siletic treatment has returned with oscillations of humor, when we have to treat something of the house. It creates conflicting situations for unimportant matters.
It's quite difficult.


Lannos

[Radcliff]

Lannos,

How have things been going in the last week?

RC