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Author Topic: The doorman said my son wasn't answering his door. Of course I think the worst.  (Read 631 times)
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« on: January 27, 2019, 09:38:29 AM »
We woke up this morning to discover the doorman at the building where my DS24xBPD lives had called at 1AM to say that he was playing loud music, people were complaining, and he was not answering his door. Of course I think the worse. My husband who has the key to DS apt went over. DS is not there. He is not answering his phone. Now we wait to hear from him.  Just the latest in an exhausting roller coaster.
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« Reply #1 on: January 27, 2019, 12:13:42 PM »
Faithhopelove,  Welcome new member (click to insert in post)
Have you heard anything?  I am so grateful for your name. love seeing it!
sending lots of your name to you
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« Reply #2 on: January 27, 2019, 01:09:26 PM »
No. We have not heard anything.
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« Reply #3 on: January 27, 2019, 01:14:32 PM »
FLH

I hope you hear soon and can understand you thinking the worse after what you've been through  

Can I ask you a question, the other day you spoke of his friends talking to him in your basement, offering support, helping to bring him round. They sound like good guys, who know him well. Are they good people, watching out for him?

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« Reply #4 on: January 27, 2019, 02:03:12 PM »
He just texted to say he is OK. I have no idea where he is.
to answer the question about his friends, I think some of them are real friends and others are just "customers." DS sometimes thinks they are the worst ever but that could be part of his splitting and projections
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« Reply #5 on: January 27, 2019, 02:45:16 PM »
Hi FHL,
Whewww- so glad to hear that he’s at least texted you. We are here for you. Keep posting if you can. It does help.

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« Reply #6 on: January 27, 2019, 03:22:08 PM »
Hi FHLKC, I just want to join in with the others and say how pleased I am to hear that you heard from your son. It must have been a big worry for you

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« Reply #7 on: January 27, 2019, 03:41:05 PM »
Thanks FB. Yes it is a relief. It is also a frustration. DS says he wasn't even home last night so we have no idea what happened.
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