How the hell did I end up back in a relationship with the ex who dumped me?

[conflicted55]

Yes, she suddenly wanted me back... .and although I had reservations, here I am.
No explanation as to what happened. No information about her ex who was back on the scene. I went from soul mate to don't exist overnite. And 3 months later, as if nothing has happened, switched back to soul mate.

Tonite, I am fuming, why? Because after checking that my udBPDgf is ok and that I had not upset her as she seemed off with me... and clearly she was... .if looks could kill. She manipulated the situation and projected her stuff into me. And then blamed me for having an attitude. What the heck? And then I realise I'm in that BPD storm... .again. And I'm left with all the ___ty emotions she can't deal with projected onto me... .aghhhhh!

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[itsmeSnap]

Yes, she suddenly wanted me back... .and although I had reservations, here I am.

Well, you like something about her I assume, so I guess that's the "why" of how you ended up with her again.

She manipulated the situation and projected her stuff into me.

What was the situation and what stuff did she project onto you?

[Vexed]

I've been there a few times conflicted.  Id always wonder how id end up back in the RS without getting any remediation, apology, or significant discussion on what happened or needed to change.