What about our needs? Especially emotional needs?

[Lifeinthefastlane]

 Hi-
My uBPD gf is always attacking me for not supporting her and meeting her needs. After 2 years of this, I am beyondburned out. It’s almost like i feel like my emotions have been chipped at by an ice pick. Eventually the damage is done. So then what? I’m not going to play the victim. I’m simply asking-thenwhat? Is this a life of losing ourseves to be in arelationship with someonewho is not capable of meeting emotional needs? To do so requires getting close-emotional intimacy, but each time that level is reached, shesabotages and the attacks are worse and worse. I can’t be her target. She finally stopped cursing, bit nowshe says hurtful words that trigger me. My friends “notice my beautiful soul slipping away” (their words).

What is emotional abuse?

When do I get to share about my needs?

I’m sorry but this relationship is killing me.

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[FJM]

Been there and thats what started the downfall. I now see it like if we were 2 cups of water. Mine was almost full and hers was empty. U start drippin your water into her cup until one day you realize your cup is empty, and you have given and invested all in her. They will never notice or see that. You cant tell them and if they agree their shots to be reciprocous will be like a joke. Untreated BPD cant love, they dont even know what that is because they came from trauma.
They cannot be reciprocous our relationships with them are just to cope the black hole that they carry. Nothing cant fix that except them and professional mental health.
What about our needs? It was all about them all the time.