She has made me feel crazy and is abusive on a daily basis

[AGoodDad]

Hello I’m  a father of a 3 year old son. Living with my wife who has BPD, most likely. 4 years ago my Mom passed away and we moved into my childhood home. Shortly after that our son was born. We had always had our issues but they were fleeting since our son came into the picture her anxiety and mood swings are off the chart. I’m incredibly content with my home and job but she is not. I do often romanticize about living in my childhood home and realize that it is not ideal. So I have agreed to move but her move has turned from a small one into a massive one that would involve a change of jobs. I can’t and don’t want to do that. She has made me feel crazy and is abusive on a daily basis. She is a great Mom and my son loves her I don’t want to get divorced and leave him or take him form her but my wife seems to be in a place where she only needs what I cant give her. It’s almost as if she’s decided she wants this so I can prove I love her. Help!

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[Ozzie101]

Hello AGoodDad! While I'm sorry for what brought you here, I would like to welcome you to our family! This is a supportive group and you'll find many people here who can understand what you're going through.

You say she's abusive on a daily basis. In what way? Can you give some examples? That will help us know how to help you better.

[Radcliff]

Let me join Ozzie101 in welcoming you.  This is a good place with members who have faced similar challenges, and many lessons and coping tools to learn.  Let us know about Ozzie101's questions, and we'll work with you on ways to improve things.

RC