Has your child ever turned you in for child abuse?

[jeanoc]

I was wondering if there are any parents out there that have been turned in for child abuse by their BPD?  How did you handle it and are they living with you anymore?

Thank you.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Only Human]

Hi jeanoc,

My daughter is 25 and has never called CPS on me but I wouldn't be surprised if other parents chime in with stories of their BPD children calling CPS.

Is your SD still living on the reservation? What's been happening?

I'm glad you've come back for support, we are listening.

~ OH

[stampingt1]

Jeanoc,

Oh, no! That hasn't happened w/ our BPD son 18.

However, I did call the police on him...he was having a rage episode, so took a Valium & decided to go driving. I told him that he couldn't take the car. His reply was that he would walk. Unfortunately, he took the car & forgot his cell phone. I was worried about his safety & the safety of others, so I called the police. They sent two officers to my house. While giving my statement to the officer, I actually threw up because I was so upset. Luckily my dad saw him driving & followed him to the other grandparent's house.

 

[mggt]

Our story. Is so long and familiar to many on this board. Long story short. Our d took us to court saying I had beaten her all her life and that my husband her father was a part of it. She initially got a restraining order against us. We fought it and went to court. Now mind  you this was when she was 25 years old. This is after we have raised her since 5 days old we adopted her. Gave her everything took her to every counseling therapist residential treatment center. Bought her 3 cars helped raise her 2 little kids. The hurt is unbelievable along with the anger on our part. We hired lawyer. Much money later. It was dismissed cause she never showed up second time court .  I am sending you hugs many of them. It’s not us. It’s this damn disease.

[jeanoc]

Thanks for your kind words.. It does help knowing we aren't alone.  She has done many things the last 3 months but her newest is calling her dad and telling him how horrible of a person I am and it is my fault they don't have a relationship.  She has turned the tables from him to me.  No matter what it hurts so bad to hear that stuff because I loved her like my own and did everything for her.  I put so much love and devotion to her that the other kids suffered.  I don't know what to expect after this...

[Only Human]

it hurts so bad to hear that stuff because I loved her like my own and did everything for her.  I put so much love and devotion to her that the other kids suffered.

Here's a hug for you, jean - I know this kind of hurt   I hope you can be gentle with yourself, knowing you did the best you could for all of your children.

It really does help knowing others can relate to what we're going through, to have a place where we can talk it out, be held up when we are not strong.

What's been going on lately and how are you coping? Your H? Kids?

Keep posting, jean, we are all here for you  

~ OH

[Miserable Mom]

Hello BPD Family. New here and thanks to all. My 16 years old daughter attempted to runaway out her bedroom window last month after an incident at school with police and set off the alarm. She had barricaded the door with furniture and when I pushed through I grabbed her and pulled her back and attempted to restrain her. She got away and I was screaming for help from my 14 year old son, who attempted to restrain her while I called 911. She bit him and got away and I attempted to restrain her from running out front door. She got away with 911 on the line and ran into oncoming highway traffic. Police found her at a neighbors house. She told the neighbors and police I abuse her and I locked her out of the house. It was -20 degrees out. Police advised me she did not meet criteria for hospitalization. I told them she has a history and had been taken by EMS 3 months prior for similar rage incident. Following day she continued to rage, told me she took pills and attempted to escape out front door. I took her to ER myself and she was admitted for her first inpatient psychiatric hospitalization. After 12 hours in ER and an ambulance transfer to Psyche Hospital I took an uber home at 4am, shell shocked. Following day DCFS IL was at my door while I was in the shower. I spoke to them briefly from the window and told them she was in the hospital. Following day first family meeting with her case manager at hospital was nothing less than an interrogation with an unknown witness sitting in. I had brought multiple files from the last year of absolute hell, including screenshots of the Dean calling me from school, the alarm set off at bedroom window, 911 call, and her snap chat texts that she used to send SOS call to runaway. Case manager backed off after an hour of listening to me. I have struggled to have professionals believe me for over a year. I consulted an attorney and had a 30 minute phone interview with DCFS child protection investigator while she was still inpatient and DCFS interviewed her at hospital without consent and interviewed her case manager. I consented to permission to contact my two oldest children, 24 and 20, which they have not contacted. After discharge I have not heard from DCFS. They have 60 days to complete investigation. Inpatient Psych dx DMDD added to existing dx of Conduct Disorder and ODD. Case Manager advised me "no one is going to diagnose her BPD". She has made many false allegations in the last year, always threatening to report me, her target, to authorities and false allegations against father for drugs, and false allegations against staff while she was inpatient. She is currently making false allegations against me to her new therapist, who she has completely bamboozeled in just 3 sessions. I am not angry with her. I am angry at the system that has only further traumatized me and my family. Police at my door in September led me to intercept her online presence and it is then that I realized something very serious was going on with her. She was medicated for the first time in November and I thought she was doing well. It is a blessing that she keeps getting caught. No charges have been filed against her and I pray none are filed against me or my son. I research constantly and am scheduled to attend NEABPD intensive seminar in May. I have 14 months until she is 18. I am looking into guardianship process to protect her from herself, as I do not see this situation changing in that time frame. It is a lonely journey though hell, attacked constantly by those that are supposed to help. They have not been to hell and seen the things I have to get my child back to safety. I would advise anyone contacted by DCFS/CPS to not let them in your home, contact an attorney immediately, research your rights, and pray without ceasing.