Hi Lostasalice,

I am sorry for the circumstances that brought you here, but I am glad you have found us.
Can you tell us a little more about your situation? I can understand your concern about your daughter and the impact your h's behavior is having on her.
If you haven't yet heard of them, there are some great books to help you understand what is happening in your relationship with your person with BPD (pwBPD). "Stop Walking on Eggshells", "I Hate You, Don't Leave Me" and "Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder" are some of the most recommended.
I hope you will share some more of your story with us. Welcome to BPD Family!
Blessings and Peace,
Redeemed