Does your SO wBPD always have to have some sort of a problem or drama and how do you deal with it?
My uBPDw and I have been separated for four months now… but yes, beforehand, eight years married, eleven years r/s; always problems, drama… dealt with "one day at a time"… sometimes, "one hour to the next"…
It seems like there is always something she is mad about and is my reaming.
DSM criterion #6. Affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood (e.g., intense episodic dysphoria, irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days).
DSM criterion #8. Inappropriate anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights).
We never have more than 2 good days before some form of chewing or a full blown fight.
Two weeks seemed to be the longest period of peace for us… between "flare-ups", two days to two weeks, I used to keep track, journal, metrics… but I stopped it, as it was too depressing to read.
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