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Dear Forum members,

I'm reaching out for help. I have posted here in the past. I have dated this girl diagnosed with BPD for a year. We have parted ways in April of 2018. She instantly started dating someone else. During the time after break up, we have been seeing each other and having sex. However, at some point, she stopped communicating, and we have been out of contact for months. Her most recent boyfriend has broken it off with her a few weeks ago.

She reached out to me and does not want to date. She just wants to be friends. She's very cold. I love her and would like to give this another go. However, I found out that she is talking to a few other guys. One of them has ignored her for weeks, and she begged him to be in a relationship over texts. That was someone she dated in High school.

What should do in my position? Why she is doing the things that she is doing? Should I be her friend? Or would I be better of telling her that I want to be in a relationship, and message me when she's ready?

I can't think straight when there are emotions involved. I would appreciate seeing someone else's perspective.

[WaitingGame]

Dear Forum members,

I'm reaching out for help. I have posted here in the past. I have dated this girl diagnosed with BPD for a year. We have parted ways in April of 2018. She instantly started dating someone else. During the time after break up, we have been seeing each other and having sex. However, at some point, she stopped communicating, and we have been out of contact for months. Her most recent boyfriend has broken it off with her a few weeks ago.

She reached out to me and does not want to date. She just wants to be friends. She's very cold. I love her and would like to give this another go. However, I found out that she is talking to a few other guys. One of them has ignored her for weeks, and she begged him to be in a relationship over texts. That was someone she dated in High school.

What should do in my position? Why she is doing the things that she is doing? Should I be her friend? Or would I be better of telling her that I want to be in a relationship, and message me when she's ready?

I can't think straight when there are emotions involved. I would appreciate seeing someone else's perspective.

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[Steps31]

Sounds like a treacherous situation, even without BPD.
I would be clear with your intentions and at least start there...

Hope you feel better

[lostinlies]

I think the best is to listen to your feelings. If you are interested in a romantic relationship be honest about it. There's a risk that you will hurt your self hoping for love if she only want friendship.

Good luck to you!