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I moved out last year from my toxic BPD parents apartment
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BPD Toxic Psychopathic parents locked all my things in their apartment and won't give them back to me.
All my life, all my memories, all my things, are there.
I moved out last year from my toxic BPD parents apartment,
after realizing that my destroyed life full of constant pain
was only due because of their horrible toxic education
in which they enslaved me all my life.
The problem is that all my things, all my memories, are still there,
and I cannot get them, they only threaten to burn them or throw them in the garbage.
What can I do?
Any ideas will be very valuable and helpful.
Thank you very much
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Re: BPD Toxic Psychopathic parents locked all my things in their apartment and won't
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it's all cycles... wait until they feel better and hurry up to get your stuff before the next episode?
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Re: BPD Toxic Psychopathic parents locked all my things in their apartment and won't
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Can you share a little more about what happened?
It's painful when your cherished belongings are withheld.
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I did everything they asked me to. But they were never all their lives happy at anything.
They are ultraconflictual parents, who repeteadly told me I should die, and theyt have conflicts basically with everyone, they are very manipulative.
I finally managed to move away from them, and I have been try to be nice to them, and not mention the life of abuses and horrible criminal things they did to me, the other members of family, and other people in general.
However they just took more and more, and this is just too much.
I have no idea what to do. They are evil beyond what human mind can imagine. In the past, when I was a child, they devised ways to torture me to break down my free will, whenever I even a little disagreed with their plans.
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Just call the police or ask for a police escort to help you get your belongings.
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Quote from: childhoodgone on May 23, 2019, 08:04:34 AM
I did everything they asked me to. But
they were never all their lives happy
at anything.
Remember this as you consider what to do. So...it would seem that getting them to name lists of things to do and you doing it is unlikely to result in their happiness.
Since you have moved out, can you share how you have tried to communicate with your parents about this issue. If you can pick an representative incident and give us as much detail as possible "you said"..."they said"...it would likely help us provide ideas on how you can turn the temperature down in your interactions.
I can't imagine anything good coming from interactions where they are threatening to destroy stuff...so...it would seem step 1 is to "turn down the temp."
Best,
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