I don't know what to do at this point. I'm used to the frequent drama, but it's escalating too far. My uBPDh has been disregulating and getting meaner and making threats. Most of the time he is a very sweet guy, but as soon as he's triggered, he is hateful and abusive. The smallest things trigger him, too.
So right now, he is unemployed because he took off work to throw a fit at me over not picking up the phone while I was in class. I knew it wasn't an emergency, so I texted him that I would call him back after class was over. Anyway, he threw a tantrum, called off work and got fired because he'd done that too many times. So he's extra prone to issues.
Also, I just started school, and my schedule is drastically changing. This of course makes *his* life more stressful.
So last Friday, we're at home in our back yard. The neighbor comes out and S4 starts playing with him. I'm amused by this. H decides that means I'm flirting with neighbor. Huge blow-up ensues after we go inside. H continues into the next day and it escalates to him making threats and attacks. There's more detail but I don't have time at the moment to write it all out. Things calm down, and we're ok for a few days.
Then this morning, after I drop off S4 at school, I go to a doctor appointment. Before heading back, I linger in the parking lot for 5-10 minutes because I had a thought to look something up on my car manual. Once I get to work, I get a call from H asking what I've been up to (he was tracking my phone). I tell him what I was doing. He says it doesn't add up, insinuating that I'm cheating on him. I stick to my true story, and he totally blows up. He tells me to meet him at the courthouse at 3 to file for divorce. I say ok. By about 1:30, he calls again asking about what time he can pick up S4. He never does pick-up, so I know this is basically a threat. The discussion escalates further, and I decide that I can't take the risk of playing along. Usually he's full of empty threats, but I don't know when it won't be.
Anyway, now I have my kid, my phone is off so H doesn't know where I am, I'm in a safe place for now but can't stay all night, and I don't know what to do next.
