How do you stop feeling like this & letting the longing rule your behaviour?
by letting go. easier said than done, right
NC isnt the same as letting go. it can give us some space to detach, but mentally letting go is a choice, one thats very painful to make. the healthiest decisions often are.
It feels so painful. Take away the abuse, breakups & manipulative behaviour she was so perfect! It isn't fair!
one way is to reconcile that its a package deal; there isnt a good and bad her, there is only one her, and at the end of the day, for whatever reasons, it doesnt work. when we can start to see that, we arent compartmentalizing anymore, and we can start to mourn and grieve something tangible, graspable.
I am just so confused at the moment.
hang in there. this is all very hard.