Frustrated

[Sleepy Panda]

I've been with my husband for years. At first he was wondering, understanding and respected my opinions. As time has passed, I feel like I'm losing pieces of myself. In order to make him happy or avoid conflict I go along with whatever he wants. After years of doing this and getting no where I find myself empty and unhappy. No matter what I do he's still not happy. I try to support his impulsive decisions but it's not getting us anywhere or making him any happier. I feel like everything I say is twisted. He'll say I said something that I never said then will say I was thinking it. He goes from being calm to raging about the smallest thing. He feels like he has the right to go out and make plans without letting me which I'm ok with since it gives me a break from his drama but whenever I have plans he finds a way to bother me to the point that I don't have a good time. I feel trapped and unhappy.

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[Designer2018]

I hear you on losing pieces of yourself by having gone with what they want. I stopped suggesting things I want because he immediately shoots it down (ie what to eat, where to vacation). His latest rant is that I never make suggestions or tell him what I want. Will be watching this thread to see if anyone has any good advice.