Wife that’s not diagnosed with BPD but continues mentally abusive behavior and a

[Wpi5]

My wife has been in and out of therapy for many years. They diagnose her with ptsd and just feel good talk never has had anyone including me force her to stop manipulating and hurting others including our children who are now adults. To make it more complicated  She has many medical problems but 2 suicide attempts and multiple suicide threats. I don’t know how to get her proper care. She’s in hospital now recovering from swallowing about 200 xzanax pills

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[Inner Light]

It could be that the therapists that work with her do realize she has a PD but aren't "confronting" her so she doesn't blow out of therapy... Even the best therapist in the world can't take a client where they don't want to go ... That said, given she's in the hospital, it may be the right time to push for a more frequent therapy (more than once a week on other words) with an educational component... Your insurance company can help refer... Good luck and please get support yourself it's so painful to watch a loved one implode.. 

[GaGrl]

Had your wife been in in-patient psychiatric care before?

What has happened at immediately after her previous suicide attempts?

Do you have an opportunity this time for her to release her doctors to discuss her diagnosis so you can plan for her care needs once she comes home? Also, her doctors may need more information from you to fully diagnose her.

[No-One]

Hi Wpi5:
Welcome!  Sounds like you are having a tough time with your wife.  If you read enough posts, you will discover that a lot of people who eventually get a BPD diagnosis, have gotten a PTSD diagnosis at some point.  The diagnosis is subjective and unless someone shares essential information, the person diagnosing doesn't know what they don't know.

What other health issues does your wife have?

Does she take any other meds for mental illness, aside from xanax?

You can't change her, but perhaps it's time for the family members to each set some personal boundaries. (that each person has control over and has their own responsibility to enforce).  Can you give examples of any boundaries you have tried to enforce in the past?