When you trip on eggshells.

[mssalty]

I have a hard time discussing serious issues with my SO.  If they want to do something, I have to agree or I know I'm going to have a hard time.  If they want to do something that will impact me, or have a financial hardship, I know that there will be an argument if I try to raise an objection.  As a consequence, I often pause, bite my tongue, or do other non-verbal cues that start my SO spiraling.   

Is there any way around this?  When I try to talk about how I feel like I can't discuss these issues, my SO says "well, I don't either because you react that way." 

I'm frustrated because I feel like no matter what my opinion is discounted, but by highlighting this, my SO says I'm discounting their feedback. 

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[Radcliff]

I'm sorry to hear about the difficulties with your SO.  Darned-if-you-do and darned-if-you-don't situations seem unfortunately common.  Can you give us a specific example with some details about your interactions to help us better understand what's happening?

RC