I think I broke up...how do I make the break-up last?

[zuggy333]

Hello...this is very new to me. I've been in a romantic relationship with a BP for just over four years. The drama and chaos is like nothing I've ever encountered. I finally had the strength to walk away the other day, even blocking his number from my phone. I took it a step further today by unfriending him on Facebook. We've had many break-ups in the past, but have always gotten back together. I know this needs to end, and I need to stick to my guns. It's so hard because I know he's not evil; he doesn't even have a clue the problem is him - he thinks it's the rest of the world. Suggestions, advice and hearing your story might help. Thank you so much!

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[Dada69]

Out of the pan, into the fire...

I split from my borderline wife for the second time 2 months ago.

Since she is giving me so much trouble that I wonder how I could have put up with her so long (10 years).

I have found that meeting new positive people and enjoying myself helps me to forget my awful past.

If you were not married, you are lucky. In a divorce, borderlines have all needed to make the process painful: lying, manipulating, demanding everything, etc.

There is no other chance but taking a tough stance and holding your ground. If you go back (I did once ...) the same problems will arise and probably be worse because you will have lost your credibility...

[Cat Familiar]

Though you are taking steps to end the relationship, I’m going to move your post to the Bettering board. That may seem counterintuitive, but chances are that you will have contact with him in the future and strategies you learn there will help you end things gracefully and with low conflict.

[once removed]

hi zuggy333, and

it sounds like youve really been through it. youve come to the right place.

what led up to the breakup? how long has it been?