Diagnosis + Treatment
The Big Picture
Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde? [ Video ]
Five Dimensions of Human Personality
Think It's BPD but How Can I Know?
DSM Criteria for Personality Disorders
Treatment of BPD [ Video ]
Getting a Loved One Into Therapy
Top 50 Questions Members Ask
Home page
Forum
List of discussion groups
Making a first post
Find last post
Discussion group guidelines
Tips
Romantic relationship in or near breakup
Child (adult or adolescent) with BPD
Sibling or Parent with BPD
Boyfriend/Girlfriend with BPD
Partner or Spouse with BPD
Surviving a Failed Romantic Relationship
Tools
Wisemind
Ending conflict (3 minute lesson)
Listen with Empathy
Don't Be Invalidating
Setting boundaries
On-line CBT
Book reviews
Member workshops
About
Mission and Purpose
Website Policies
Membership Eligibility
Please Donate
April 28, 2024, 04:26:05 PM
Welcome,
Guest
. Please
login
or
register
.
1 Hour
5 Hours
1 Day
1 Week
Forever
Login with username, password and session length
Board Admins:
Kells76
,
Once Removed
,
Turkish
Senior Ambassadors:
Cat Familiar
,
EyesUp
,
SinisterComplex
Help!
Boards
Please Donate
Login to Post
New?--Click here to register
Books members most read
105
The High
Conflict Couple
Loving Someone with
Borderline Personality Disorder
Loving the
Self-Absorbed
Borderline Personality
Disorder Demystified
BPDFamily.com
>
Children, Parents, or Relatives with BPD
>
Son, Daughter or Son/Daughter In-law with BPD
> Topic:
Not sure where to go from here
Pages: [
1
]
Go Down
« previous
next »
Print
Author
Topic: Not sure where to go from here (Read 421 times)
doch
Offline
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Child
Posts: 5
Not sure where to go from here
«
on:
November 06, 2019, 02:33:29 PM »
Young adult (25 year old son)
He went to DBT for a year and was doing well but because of his past he has not been able to get a job or get accepted to law school (despite scoring in the 90% on the LSAT).
Broke his heart.
He stopped going to DBT. Living with grandparents. Has one friend, his girlfriend.
Has decided capitalism is the worst thing in the world. Decided he is a Communist.
I know he is doing this because he is so hurt by rejection. The past was over four years ago and he had record expunged as everything was dropped by evil ex girlfriend as nothing happened. Problem is local paper refuses to take down headlines.
I am at a loss. He is such an great young man but has given up. He wants to live in the woods and become a hermit. Crying inside.
Doch
Logged
Our objective
is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to
learn the skills
to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders
FaithHopeLove
Retired Staff
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Child
Relationship status: Shaky
Posts: 1606
Re: Not sure where to go from here
«
Reply #1 on:
November 06, 2019, 03:04:09 PM »
Hi
doch
I literally feel your pain because my 25 year old son is basically in that giving up.space too. It is heartbreaking. But it is not hopeless. Your son is obviously quite smart. He is maintaining what appears to be a healthy relationship with his girlfriend. He has done well in DBT before. Perhaps one day he will move past his very understandable feelings of frustration and try again at life. What is his relationship with his grandparents like?
Logged
doch
Offline
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Child
Posts: 5
Re: Not sure where to go from here
«
Reply #2 on:
November 06, 2019, 07:02:17 PM »
He is wonderful to his grandparents. He treats his father terribly and me touch and go. But he is kind and sweet to his grandparents.
Thank you for asking.
Logged
FaithHopeLove
Retired Staff
Offline
Gender:
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Child
Relationship status: Shaky
Posts: 1606
Re: Not sure where to go from here
«
Reply #3 on:
November 06, 2019, 09:41:54 PM »
That kind of splitting is not unusual. It is a good thing he has his grandparents to help hum. Are they your parents or your in laws? I am trying to get a more full picture of your family system so we can better help you.
Logged
Can You Help Us Stay on the Air in 2024?
Pages: [
1
]
Go Up
Print
BPDFamily.com
>
Children, Parents, or Relatives with BPD
>
Son, Daughter or Son/Daughter In-law with BPD
> Topic:
Not sure where to go from here
« previous
next »
Jump to:
Please select a destination:
-----------------------------
Help Desk
-----------------------------
===> Open board
-----------------------------
Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+)
-----------------------------
=> Romantic Relationship | Bettering a Relationship or Reversing a Breakup
=> Romantic Relationship | Conflicted About Continuing, Divorcing/Custody, Co-parenting
=> Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship
-----------------------------
Children, Parents, or Relatives with BPD
-----------------------------
=> Son, Daughter or Son/Daughter In-law with BPD
=> Parent, Sibling, or In-law Suffering from BPD
-----------------------------
Community Built Knowledge Base
-----------------------------
=> Library: Psychology questions and answers
=> Library: Tools and skills workshops
=> Library: Book Club, previews and discussions
=> Library: Video, audio, and pdfs
=> Library: Content to critique for possible feature articles
=> Library: BPDFamily research surveys
Our 2023 Financial Sponsors
We are all appreciative of the members who provide the funding to keep BPDFamily on the air.
12years
alterK
AskingWhy
At Bay
Cat Familiar
CoherentMoose
drained1996
EZEarache
Flora and Fauna
ForeverDad
Gemsforeyes
Goldcrest
Harri
healthfreedom4s
hope2727
khibomsis
Lemon Squeezy
Memorial Donation (4)
Methos
Methuen
Mommydoc
Mutt
P.F.Change
Penumbra66
Red22
Rev
SamwizeGamgee
Skip
Swimmy55
Tartan Pants
Turkish
whirlpoollife
Loading...