Daughter surfaces on FB after 4 months invisible

[Rosheger]

As I have posted earlier, my DD has requested no contact of any kind with me for about 4 months now.  So, when I saw her post a photo of herself on FB yesterday, my heart skipped a beat.  She looks wonderful and beautiful.  She received many positive responses, including a "love" from me (I couldnt resist).  I am aware my hopes are soaring - maybe we can connect now?  Maybe we can have a relationship?  maybe, maybe... My son and I are both hopeful.  Yet, I have heard nothing and know I need to continue to sit on my hands,  especially since I am only now learning how to communicate with her from the Family Connections classes.  I feel great relief that she looks so well!

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[FaithHopeLove]

I am happy to hear that your daughter looks great. It must be a huge relief. You are right to take it very slow though. It is important that she not feel pushed.

[wendydarling]

Rosh I too am happy to hear your DD looks so well, just what you needed after all this time.

You are doing well sitting on your hands  and placing your effort in doing the work, you've every reason to feel hopeful. Without hope I'd not be where I am now.

How's are you finding the classes?

Hope 

WDx

[Rosheger]

Thank you WDx, 
   I am very impressed with the FC classes - so well organized, with lots of references, videos to read/watch.  The homework is very thought provoking,  although since my DD and I are not on speaking terms, I am not able to practice the communication skills with her directly, but can with other people in my life.  It never hurts to just listen, be quiet, observe theirs and my reactions,  breathe, and not be judgmental.
  In the FC group, I am one of 2 or 3 that has a child over 30.  I wish there were more, as we are part of the group that wasn't aware of BPD when our kids were teens and young adults.  It is still good to hear from everyone, though, as I am reminded of all the "hell" I went through when my DD was younger... and we both survived!    Rosh