Feeling Deleted

[Brokendaughter]

A little over a year ago I wanted to find out who my biological father was. Left in a bubble of a small town I was always afraid to venture out until I got away from that town and my bl mother.

I found him and discovered why I’m so different from my mom and family. I’m just like him. It revealed so many secrets.

But in doing this it cause my bl mother to delete me and her 2 grand sons in her life. No calls texts cards. She has blocked me from emails and calls. I have physically and mentally have been deleted.

I’m having a hard time understand how you can do this to your grandchildren. This in itself shows me how real her sickness is and it’s getting worse with age.

Makes me sad because she’s getting older and I still want to be there fir her and want her to know my family and kids but after being deleted for over a year I’m really broken. I get depressed every holiday thinking she will come around but really it’s because I’m morning my undead mother ...

[Woolspinner2000]

Hi Brokendaughter, 

Welcome to our big online family! We understand the dynamics of what you are going through, and so many of us have been there or are there now. It's such a tricky walk, isn't it?

When a pwBPD is showing signs of symptoms of typical behaviors, a situation such as what you are experiencing is very black and white to them. My uBPDm felt that we were betraying her if we paid attention to any other family member besides her, especially one who had hurt her in some way. We became disloyal to her, and she would almost cut us out of her life.

Here is an article that might give you some insight: Fear of Abandonment

Does this seem like it might apply to your situation at all?

 
Wools

[Gary3]

A little over a year ago I wanted to find out who my biological father was. Left in a bubble of a small town I was always afraid to venture out until I got away from that town and my bl mother.

I found him and discovered why I’m so different from my mom and family. I’m just like him. It revealed so many secrets.

But in doing this it cause my bl mother to delete me and her 2 grand sons in her life. No calls texts cards. She has blocked me from emails and calls. I have physically and mentally have been deleted.

I’m having a hard time understand how you can do this to your grandchildren. This in itself shows me how real her sickness is and it’s getting worse with age.

Makes me sad because she’s getting older and I still want to be there fir her and want her to know my family and kids but after being deleted for over a year I’m really broken. I get depressed every holiday thinking she will come around but really it’s because I’m morning my undead mother ...

Grandchildren generally is the heart of love and relationship. Its surprising how can they do that.