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« Reply #30 on: January 02, 2020, 02:50:37 PM »
Quote from: Cat Familiar on January 01, 2020, 03:24:43 PM
What's the worst possible thing that could happen should he trigger you to feel unlovable? What's the worst possible thing he could do?

This seems to be at the heart of your impasse.

The thing he would do is to reject me forever and say horrible things about me, all of the things that hurt me the most. I fear rejection, even if it's from someone I don't want to be with.
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« Reply #31 on: January 02, 2020, 03:01:12 PM »
Quote from: WitzEndWife on January 02, 2020, 02:50:37 PM
The thing he would do is to reject me forever and say horrible things about me, all of the things that hurt me the most. I fear rejection, even if it's from someone I don't want to be with.

Let’s say this has happened. Let’s say it happened two weeks ago, in the midst of the holiday season.

Now you’ve finished drying your tears and you’re dusting yourself off, looking at the calendar, anticipating a new year, a new beginning, a new you. What comes to mind?
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« Reply #32 on: January 02, 2020, 03:08:17 PM »
Quote from: WitzEndWife on January 02, 2020, 02:49:03 PM

As for school, it's 18 months long and he will need to take an exam, but then he will be certified and they will help him find a job anywhere.

So, he is leaving soon and will not live with you for 18 months? 

How far away will he be?

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« Reply #33 on: January 03, 2020, 09:27:08 AM »
Quote from: Cat Familiar on January 02, 2020, 03:01:12 PM
Let’s say this has happened. Let’s say it happened two weeks ago, in the midst of the holiday season.

Now you’ve finished drying your tears and you’re dusting yourself off, looking at the calendar, anticipating a new year, a new beginning, a new you. What comes to mind?

What comes to mind? Freedom, peace of mind, lonliness, sadness, fear, excitement, relief. A mix of things, really.
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« Reply #34 on: January 03, 2020, 09:27:48 AM »
Quote from: formflier on January 02, 2020, 03:08:17 PM
So, he is leaving soon and will not live with you for 18 months? 

How far away will he be?


He'll be a few states away and yes, he won't live with me for 18 months.
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« Reply #35 on: January 04, 2020, 03:31:35 AM »
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