Do things get better?

[meandmyfamily]

I’ve read account after account of how bpd affects family and what family can do to stay safe but the thing I haven’t read and the thing that makes me the most nervous is, does the BPD person ever get better?  I know there’s no “cure” but can a person with bpd who is in therapy and who knows and understands they have a problem ever get better?  Can they live a normal life and have hopes of an enjoyable future?  Does modern cbt/dbt therapy have any chance of creating hope for a sufferer of bpd?

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[twojaybirds]

My question is what does "better" mean.

My dd went from living on the streets age 18 to going to college, being in the same relationship for 5 years, renting the same apartment for 4 years and now pregnant.

But the relationship is not good, the college not quite finished, the friendships can be troubling.

She eats well, looks healthy but emotionally is a mess even on meds.  She knows she spirals, struggles with friends but does not really know yet it is her BPD that causes it.  I know she deserves to be happier, but she isn't and can't get there and put lots of energy and altered realities into guising her pain.  It has to be exhausting and painful, to keep trying to find peace and happiness and always missing the mark.

Our relationship is "better" because I put the work into me, understanding,  setting boundaries,  saying NO.

Many say Princess Di had BPD what was 'better" with her?

There are so many moving parts that keep shifting.

What is one thing that would define 'better" in your situation?

[meandmyfamily]

I guess maybe a broad definition would be more good days than bad? 

[twojaybirds]

The good and better days come when you take care of you.

How are you taking care of yourself?