A friend with BPD, Do I tell her?

[Maya333]

Hi,
I am here seeking advice on how to alert a friend to the possibility of her needing professional help (not saying, "I think you have BPD".). I am not a medical professional, I just see my friend exhibits so many, if not all, BPD traits. She has no friends, no carrier, is very clingy and oversharing, has rage tantrums over just anything, often sinks into depression, longs for love and acceptance but rejects and hates herself. She sent me a letter recently, saying "I am going to kill myself this weekend. It's too hard..." but when I come to her house she didn't want to talk about it at all. I fear for her and want to help. She definitely needs professional help. How do I go about it?
 

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[Adrian26]

Hi there,

Is she already on some other form of help or has she any experienced with mental health help?

In this case, you could carefully address the issue. Ask her about how shes feeling. Whats going on according to her. Ask her what she think she needs.
I cant really assess how defensive she's going to be. But at this point, if she's actively communicating suicide attempts, even if they're a call for help: slowly moving towards talking about BPD isn't the worst you can do. Ask yourself, what's the worst that could happen if discussing it with tact?