I'm sorry, Stic! It must be so frustrating to know there's something wrong and yet feel like you're being discounted/not believed.
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Unfortunately, what you describe is pretty common with BPD. They're often able to present a very competent image to others and only reveal their true selves to the ones closest to them. That's part of what can make BPD so difficult to diagnose.
Was the P snowed? Or is he playing the long game? I don't know. You might have to give it some time and see how it starts to play out. Does he have any experience dealing with BPD or other PDs?
As for you, one of your last posts mentioned reaching out for help but people were out until Jan. 20. Have you reached out again? The controlling of money is a form of abuse and I hope you can get some professional counseling about that. Did you ever hook up with that BPD support group?