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« on: February 25, 2020, 11:12:15 AM »

Been having trouble communicating with my ex to effectively co-parent.  We had separate counselors, and touch on the subject of coparenting with the social worker working with one of our children.  That seemed to work for a while, but now communication is poor.  I am thinking of a joint counselor to just work with me and my ex.  Is there such a thing? 
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« Reply #1 on: February 25, 2020, 11:33:56 AM »

What kinds of communication problems are you having?  There may be different solutions, depending on what is happening.

Are you each still seeing the separate counselors?
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« Reply #2 on: February 25, 2020, 04:05:39 PM »

There are coparenting counselors and then there are parenting coordinators. Both are typically associated with family law court in one way or another, which is often where families who have at least one high-conflict parent need significant help.

I've used both a co-parent counselor and a parenting coordinator. In my state, PCs have extension of judicial duties which makes me think they are usually assigned by a judge, but I don't think that's always the case. Other states have PCs but they are more therapeutic in their approach, I think. Meaning, they work on communication more than what they do in my state.

Would your ex agree to working with a joint counselor?
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« Reply #3 on: March 15, 2020, 06:34:00 AM »

In my case we had communication problems while the Court case was ongoing. After we settled, the tensions resided.
We also used the TalkingParents App instead of text messaging. This helped a lot as both co-parents know that whatever is written there can show up in Court as fully legally admissible evidence.
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