My ex girlfriend who suffers from BPD father has died

[Jayjayjay]

I'm worried about her I want to make her smile but I don't want to push her away

I have her space she reached out to me we were talking over texts she said things would get better between us

Then I seen photo on her Facebook of her and her when she was baby I knew something was up so I texted her she texted back and told me her dad took his own life she was anger he did that but she was sad he wouldn't be a grandad of be able too give her away on her wedding dad and it was pain she never felt before I told her I was sorry for her loss reminded her she's a good person and told her I'm always here for her and also told her I'm always there for her

I love the girl she know I'm always there for her but I'm worried incase she self harms or does wrose

I'm giving her space I want her back I know I can't fix her but I can make her feel loved and make her happy

She told me her father sexually mentally and physically abused her growing up she said he wasn't bad to her all of the time so I can understand why she even cared for him and didn't hate him 200 prosent

I was very good to her when we where boyfriend and girlfriend she told me she backed off when a man was too nice too her and she needed alot of space I gave her space  but reminded her I loved her we both hurted each other what happened is we made each other jealous and hurted each other I got her flowers left them at her door step

So we went back to being friends I said I didn't think she was in the right frame of mind for a relanonship and asked if she wanted to go back to being friends for a while she then realized it was for the best or she was scared incase I broke up with her

So she broke up with me I wish I knew what to do when we were together so she wouldn't have to go throw this alone I wish I could her her up but at the shame time I don't want to chase her incase it scares her and I push her away by chasing her but I'm scared incase she ends up back in a mental hospital or killshelf

What should I do I love her I mean it I know it could take months before I get her back I'm going to wait for her I know it could take a long time but she been through a lot and she doesn't dersvere to go through this

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