he's in dbt for about 2 months
getting into therapy, and recovery, are hard roads. there may be a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, so to speak, but its no cakewalk. expect volatility.
this is written for parents of a BPD child, but it can give you a very good idea of what to expect, and how to navigate:
https://bpdfamily.com/content/support-child-therapynow he is in a ok mood - but i'm walking on eggshells to the next outburst.
thats no way to live.
there will be another outburst; just as surely as there will be another thunderstorm, another tornado, another blizzard, another hurricane.
you love a difficult person. "storms" are inevitable, just as they are in life. in life, you dont walk on eggshells waiting for the next thunderstorm. but you do learn about the thunderstorm. you prepare for the thunderstorm. and you build a foundation that can weather the thunderstorm.
(and still hurting from the things he said -- I don't want to live with someone who is repulsed by me and all the other really nasty things he said and things he blamed on me)
our loved ones have a unique ability to say hurtful things, no doubt. likewise, they have an ability to put us on a pedestal.
the key, as hard as it is, is to learn to see extreme emotions and verbalizations for what they are. you asked, in the title of your thread "do i take them seriously". the answer is you take them with a grain of salt. but you learn, over time, to depersonalize the over the top hurtful things, or the over the top loving things, and find the grain of truth.